Blog: Marriage in todays world.

I find this world very confusing. But my biggest confusion is Marriage. Im not even sure why people do it anymore. Im sure there are a few out there that follow it to the letter and it works out for them. But, I just don't see how it is possible for a marriage to make it in this day and age. For one, there is no consequences anymore for breaking your word or a vow you had made, and that goes for other things besides marriage. Loyality in this world is a very rare thing. And to be perfectly honest I don't think human beings are made to have one mate forever. Again, there is always an exception to the rule. There are those sweet couples out there that never have been with anyone else and they been together most of their lives. Its again, a rare thing in this world. I think all marriage is these days, is just a big show or an excuse to have an epic party. I guess that is sort of jaded but all I have to go on is what I have seen in my life. I have a huge family. I cant think of a single one other than my grandparents and their generation that stayed married and are happy together. And sometimes the older people that still are together fight like cats and dogs, and not at all like the happy little image we have of them. Because the truth is, people change as the age. Your wants and needs change, its very rare that a mate will change with you or that you will be able to make things work even though you are no longer the people you were when you got married. Most of the time they just stay together and live in misery for the kids sake or they divorce and remarry within five years of each other. On to the next because oooh well, I got a divorce. Its not even a shocking thing to hear anymore. Im more shocked to find out my friends have are still married at the end of the second year. I guess you could call me kind of closed minded. But hey, the facts are in the numbers and divorce is on the rise. Im not sure I will ever take the plunge. Im not sure anyone else out there will feel about marriage as I do. I have a very old soul. I believe that is one oath you make and keep till death. Reguardlesss of what transpires in your life, you stay together. Not in misery either. Im not saying that there wont be arguemnts and fighting and bad times. But nothing would ever shake me up enough to turn my back on a vow like that. My heritage has certain things that they do, that I would do in my own ceremony. Back in the old days when they had to marry in secrete so the british soliders didn't come and take the bride away. Watch braveheart, lol. Some of it is in there. I have to hand make my own scarf for my if ever future husband. I will custom make our rings out of the same elements they had during that time period. I don't need diamonds. I need legacy and history. The fact that my people once took the risk to pledge their love to another, knowing they could be raped or killed for doing it in secrete. Its just so moving and fills me with pride. Most of them were married up in the hills at night. So I have to be married at night. It is only fitting. Most of them couldn't wear anything fancy or they would give it away so I have to figure that one out lol. I at least hope the groom chooses the kilt, on his own. Id never tell anyone what to wear but Id secretly hope for it. It has to be like they did it. Its important. So many women were hurt for just being in love. They struggled, my people. I really want to honor that sacrifice made. To say, even now that kind of stand is remembered and still taken. I want that desperate I will love you forever and risk my life for it love. And I wont marry unless I find that mind that wants the same. I would only marry someone in my heritage. At least a little bit. I guess that is raciest but I just want to protect my bloodline and heritage. It has nothing to do with color at all. I want as full blood children as I can get, lol. I don't know. Marriage is just way too much time and money and effort. Blahhh. That's my thoughts about that. Lol.